Is it really okay to begin again? We see this question asked often and wanted to give our two cents. Here are the reasons we believe starting over is inevitable to this crazy thing we call life.
It’s okay to begin again, to start over, to leave your current path and forge a new one. There isn’t a rule book on life, no ones career or personal path is perfectly straight or narrow. Bumps, curves and deep plunges are all part of the game.
We often think the scariest thing is choosing a University or College and navigating our way to a career path we’ll be interested in when we graduate. Boy were we wrong. Personally, we would say choosing that said career path isn’t the scariest thing, it’s realizing, after all of that schooling, how that career isn’t what we wanted. Or after 5 years in our “dream role”, that we don’t truly love it like we thought we did, our passion has fizzled out and dried up. We often find ourselves feeling resentful towards the people who knew what the wanted to do, who they wanted to be, and what path they needed to take…. and are successful to this day because of it.
What we don’t realize is how starting over, is just a way of life. People change, their values and beliefs and goals change. When we evolve, we find our current situation doesn’t align with our inner self. It’s scary, but it’s imminent. If you don’t change, you won’t get to experience all that your life has to offer. Fear of the unknown can’t hold you back forever. If you’re fearful of changing, it just means you’re closer to finding out all you can be. Embrace that fear, conquer it, and allow it to propel you into a new you.
it’s okay to begin again
The thought of starting over is daunting, we’ve all been there at one point or another. The constant worry of what’s next and where to even start. There’s always that incessant feeling of self-doubt when your life has just been swept under your feet and your world changes within a blink of an eye. The question of how to navigate your next step seems paralyzing as the anxiety of it all sets in.
What you need to realize is how this new beginning is blessing in disguise and the best things are on their way to you…. when you decide to embrace the opportunity. Starting new is scary, yes, but it’s also something you can be thankful for. You get a shot at a new beginning, a new life you can shape as your own, one a lot of people pass up. Don’t allow yourself to miss out on what could be. Soon, your life will pass you by and you’ll be 80, resenting your life and the fact that the only thing holding yourself back from a beautiful life was you.
Embrace Your Feelings
If you’re still in the feels, we want you to feel it all. Every emotion, embrace and explore it. These emotions are important in propelling you to your new beginning. You need to challenge your emotions to understand them, to deal with them, to not let them fester and seep into every aspect of your life.
Your emotions can have a huge impact on the way you see yourself. If you’re having a hard time getting past what you’re feeling, start a new self-care routine. Implement activities that make you feel good, relax you and ground you. Focus on yourself during this time and get past the sadness and the uncertainty. Check out our article, THE POWER OF SELF CARE to better understand how important focusing on you really is. Also, for some ideas on self care activities read our recent post, SELF CARE ACTIVITIES YOU NEED TO IMPLEMENT INTO YOUR DAILY ROUTINE.
If you can’t navigate the intrusive thoughts and emotions by yourself, reach out to a friend or a professional. You’re never alone, but sometimes we need some extra guidance. It’s okay to not be okay.
Don’t Let Society’s Standards Limit You
We’re all too worried about what other people think and do. It’s exhausting trying to live up to other people standards and expectations. If they’re judging you, they’re jealous of you and the life you are building. The box they want you to fit into is the one they’re stuck in themselves.
The societal timeline that has been imbedded into our brains from a young age can become detrimental to us reaching our full potential. You don’t need to start a family by 30 or own a house before you’re 28. It’s time to stop trying to live by someone else’s rules. If you allow society or your family to determine your timeline, then you’ll never accomplish all you’re meant to accomplish. It limits you from dreaming big and succeeding. Don’t be the person who never starts their dream job because their social circle tells them they can’t be a 30 year old intern. You can graduate from University at 23 or at 55. Both situations have the same outcome, they’re both graduates from University. You’re never too old (or young) to accomplish what you want.
You are never too old to have a new dream… It’s okay to start over. Don’t let people confine you with their timelines of success. — Brigette Hyacinth
Don’t Allow Past Failures To Prevent You From Trying New Ventures
Just because you were bad at something once upon a time, doesn’t mean you can’t conquer it. If you fail once, get up and try again. Practice makes perfect and take all criticism as constructive. It might bruise our ego, but every failure is a lesson. Don’t let your fear of not being perfect stop you from being great, perfect is overrated anyways.
Don’t Deny Yourself Of Greatness
If you take a single thing from this advice column, take this one crucial note: don’t deny yourself of greatness. You can be great. Don’t let yourself believe you can’t. There is nothing you can’t learn and nothing you can’t excel at. You just have to allow yourself the opportunity to succeed at it. If you’re a parent or guardian, make sure to encourage your kids to reach for those damn stars and to never give up trying. If you don’t try, you’ll never succeed. Don’t deny yourself of the life you could live. Don’t allow yourself to become affected by others failures, warnings, or views and opinions. Become who you truly want! And if you don’t know who that person is… get out there and find out. Don’t be afraid of exploring a new you.
Go Out and Begin Again
Don’t limit yourself on what you could become, because you believe it isn’t possible. It is. Greatness can be achieved by anybody, regardless of your background, race, ethnicity, gender identity, age, or starting point (and other diverse backgrounds/circumstances). It’ll be harder to get there than it would be for others, but the journey and fight would be worth so much more in the end. The only way you will fail, is if you don’t try.
So, it’s okay to begin again! It’s necessary. Your new life is waiting for you. Happiness is waiting for you. Success is waiting for you. Encourage yourself to fight for what you want. To become who you want to become.
Life is full of regrets, don’t let yourself be the reason why you regret your life!